What is Self-Worth and How do we Build It?

Self-worth is defined by Merriam-Webster as “a feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect”. It means that you value yourself and feel that you’re worthy. Self-worth is more behavioral than emotional and is mostly about how you act toward what you value rather than how you compare yourself towards others. For example, a person with self-worth takes responsibility for their mistakes, but doesn’t degrade themselves over making them. 

Some ways to improve your feelings of Self-Worth include:

• Writing down minor goals for the week and checking them off each day as you achieve them.
• Dressing nice and taking pride in your appearance
• Learning a new skill and sticking with it
• Cut ties with people who drag you down
• Don’t let anyone change your core values
• Always be honest with yourself and others
• Conquer something you’re afraid of

Improving your self-worth starts small with daily changes. This can lead to changing your habits and thoughts. To learn more about small ways to improve your self-worth in your daily life, check out THIS article.

What does your Self Worth Have to do with Finding the Right Partner?

Oftentimes in relationships, people might base someone else’s love for them on their feelings. For example if they are in a relationship, they might feel better about themselves. But then when they are out of a relationship, they might be much harder on themselves. However, love of another person shouldn’t define you, your values, or cause your emotions to drastically change. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that your partner’s love is what makes you worthy of love. Once you love and value yourself, you can love and support someone else even more and in a healthier way. When two people who value and love themselves come together, their love together can be much stronger and they end up being happier. However, if you don’t value yourself, you might be drawn to another person with the same lack of self-worth which can only hurt you both more and ultimately cause the start of a toxic cycle.

Life Balance Therapy

Always focus on yourself before jumping into a relationship. Sometimes, the best way to do that is to seek outside support. Life Balance Therapy offers many services, including professional life coaching, to help you rediscover your self-worth. Life Balance Therapy also offers couples counseling. Couples therapy is a way for two people to put in extra effort to make a relationship work and change for the better. If you live in Texas, we offer online and in-person couples counseling. Licensed counselor and professional life coach, Chriselda Santos, can help you get started. She works with couples in crisis and provides therapy for those who are thinking about ending a relationship, but are confused and don’t know what they want.To learn more about couples counseling, click HERE and to schedule an appointment, click HERE. Are you ready to rediscover your self-worth?